“Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you.” Some years ago, I was driving to an unfamiliar location. I put the address information into the Google navigation app on my phone and headed out in high confidence that I would get where I needed to go. But something unexpected happened. For some odd reason, the system I was depending on to give me direction failed. After a couple of U-turns and some very complicated directions from the computerized voice talking to me, I started feeling uncomfortable. I had the sense that something wasn’t right with the guidance I was receiving. I had that feeling inside that said, “You’re lost!” After a few moments of concern, I shut down the GPS app and restarted my phone. I thought to myself "maybe everything needed to be reset." For some reason, totally unknown to me, something was off in the GPS system, and resetting it was the cure. When I restarted the program, re-entered the address and began the navigation again, everything worked as it was supposed to. The reset got me back on track. It brought me out of being lost into a sure direction again. It's amazing! Where would we be without a reset feature? Have you ever thought while dealing with the Covid-19 pandemic crisis that maybe your life needs a reset right now? We need a reset button for life itself because we perpetually find ourselves all tied up in knots over some problem, or feeling entangled in situations that we have no control over. Many times in our life journey we get off track. Through the busyness of life, the influence of wrong thinking, wrong people, wrong priorities, or whatever, our internal sense of direction is confused. We end up wandering into territory we shouldn’t be in. We start listening to voices that misguide us. And before long, we have that sinking feeling that says, “You’re lost!” Some of us are lost because of the COVID-19 illness that has sadly taken so many lives. We don’t know how to be normal when an abnormal illness resides in our country. With so much uncertainty going on and injustice on the rise, we begin to take unpleasant thoughts seriously. Thoughts like, “That was a complete disaster,” “I’ll never amount to anything,” “People are idiots,” and “Things never work out,” often feel like the absolute truth- like depressing but important insights about the way things really are. It’s easy to forget that they’re just thoughts. To utter the words, “I think I need a reset,” can be scary. But what if… We do need a reset? I don’t know about you, but every now and again, I need a reset. Here are three simple ways to hit the reset button on life! Laughter “When you laugh, at that very moment your depression takes a back seat.” -Lyoshi Esters Sometimes, no matter how difficult life may [...]
Do you know that people who are stuck having the same problem are in a cycle? It’s like they are on a treadmill going nowhere. You face the same old stuff year after year. Same old job year after year, wishing you could get out, situations with your children, the financial treadmill, chronic failure, repeated illness or sickness, family dysfunction, and negativity. You feel like you’re going to suffocate because there is so much weighing you down. You don’t really know why, but this force is relentless. No matter what you do, you carry this knotted heaviness inside everywhere you go. You keep repeating the pattern and now nothing feels right anymore. You look at your life and marvel at how it doesn’t feel like ‘yours’ at all. You desperately want to escape; you badly want to move beyond the cycle. However, you keep going around in a circle. Have you ever felt sometimes that your life was going around in circles? It can be frustrating, dizzying, discouraging and hard to know what to do about it. So what are some steps to break this cycle? Ban Negative Self Talk Do you often identify with your struggles? “I’m depressed.” “I’m a failure at school/work/life.” In those words, you can hear, “This struggle is me,” or “I’ll never overcome it.” How many of you have said these words, either to your closest confidante or just to yourself, when no one else is around? You’ve been brainwashed to go from powerful to powerless, but you don’t have to remain stuck in that place. There is a way out of this cycle, and it starts from looking within. After reading this article, go find a mirror and say, “I will listen to that whisper of hope that says, ‘you can do it, try again.’” “You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible.” -Les Brown Cultivate gratitude You’ve probably heard it a million times, but keeping a gratitude journal about what you’re thankful for can have a big effect on your mindset. “Gratitude is the heart’s memory,” says the French proverb. You might wonder, when things go wrong what do you really have to be grateful about? Think of the worst times in your life, your losses, your sadness, and then remember that here you are, standing tall, that you made it through the worst times of your life. You got through the confusion, you got through the obstacles, you endured the storm, you survived the dark relationship. Remember what you’ve gone through, then look to see where you are headed. Love and Accept Yourself Unconditional love means you love yourself no matter what. It means you have unconditional worth. Love yourself without judgment. To love yourself is to be with yourself through the hard times. The love deep inside awaits you to come home. It is your palace of refuge, a place that knows no bounds, other than to receive you in [...]
What are your values? Down through the ages, many have said honesty, loyalty, justice, fairness, mercy, and bravery. I concur, however I believe that in this new decade we need not to forget the value of love. That raises some important questions. Is love a value? Does love belong in the same category as these other values? A value is a characteristic of merit to which we can live by. So, can we live by love? “Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart, and the senses.” — Lao Tzu Based on the current events that are happening in the world, like me, you probably also feel like the future is uncertain and that the world is quickly turning into a very sad place. With rumors of war, hate, and unfairness happening, we feel powerless sometimes not knowing what to do to help stop these things from coming to pass in the scary world that we live in. However, I believe we as humans have forgotten that one thing that can heal the brokenness of this world, love. Love is the value that makes our relationships better. Love means I can be kind, caring, and understanding. Spreading love in your own way will get us one step closer to unity throughout mankind. It would make it a more positive and livable place for our children. It doesn’t have to be too great or too big, it can be as small as expressing gratitude to your friends and family, or helping out a stranger whenever they need a helping hand. Donate your clothes you no longer wear. Say “thank you” more. Make an extra lunch for a homeless person. In conclusion, in today’s society we are overloaded with messages that admonish us to put “me” first. As a consequence, we forget that the point of having the value of love is to spread it to others. When you spread the love, the love comes back to you many times over through loving relationships. If we can all come together and do our small part each day in spreading the value of love, we can leave this world knowing that we have created a positive place for our children to enjoy without any fear or sadness. So, can we live by love? I say, YES, WE CAN!
“Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”. What can you say about yourself? The way we speak to ourselves internally makes a large distinction in how we live. There is a plethora of things that you can say to yourself each day to be able to make better decisions and improve your mood. So, re-wire your brain and be more confident. "You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough." – Mae West If you say positive things, it makes way for a positive boost in the mood and gets you in the groove! Remember you are what you say you are! Here are 15 Positive Things to Say to Yourself Daily The world has a need for me. I am smart. I love myself for who I am. I am beautiful inside and out. My life matters. My opinions matter. I can accomplish anything I put my mind to. Being me is enough. I love my body. I am vauled. I am talented. I am so blessed. I am a winner. I fear nothing. I am loved. Remember you are what you say you are!
“Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”. Are you ready to love yourself? If you can't love yourself, you're going to have a hard time truly loving the world around you and enjoying the life you're living. Are you ready to take responsibility for your experience and begin to lead a happy, full life? Here are 4 important ways that can help you love yourself! 1. Eliminate Negative Self-Talk - Utilize the Power of Positive Talk Negative self-talk limits you, increases stress, and hurts your self-concept. Here’s a tip, as you notice yourself saying something negative in your mind. You can stop your thought mid-stream by saying to yourself, “Stop.” Saying this aloud will be more powerful, and having to say it aloud will make you more aware of how many times you are stopping negative thoughts. Replace it with Positive Affirmations like: I ENJOY THE VARIETY OF LIFE. I SEE AND VALUE MY UNIQUENESS. I AM EASY ON MYSELF. I KNOW I AM DOING THE BEST I CAN. I GO FOR THAT WHICH MAKES ME FEEL GOOD. I FEEL ALIVE. I AM CREATING A GOOD LIFE FOR MYSELF. I LOVE WHERE I COME FROM. I LOVE WHERE I AM. I LOVE WHERE I AM GOING. I AM HAPPY TO BE ME. I AM TOTALLY FREE. If you are ready to change your life then you must first change the way you talk to yourself. 2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others - Focus on You If you struggle with issues of self-esteem and insecurity, the worst possible thing you can do to yourself is to compare yourself to someone else. There is a plethora of ways to compare yourself to others, and all of them lead to feeling bad about yourself: grades, sports, job title, income, career advancement, social media followers, etc. When you compare yourself to others, the worst thing you can do is bank on your limitations. People often concentrate on what they’re not good at and they spend their time wishing they could be better. “Find out who you are and do it on purpose.” – Dolly Parton Compare yourself to your goals. Compare yourself to your values. Compare yourself to where you were. Just leave other people out of the comparisons and you’ll do fine. “Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.” - John Spence 3. Distance Yourself from Those Who Bring You Down - Toxic People Toxic people aren’t actually interested in you and your life. Being in no relationship is better than being in a wrong one. Don’t worry too much about folks who don’t worry about you. Know your worth! When you give yourself to those who disrespect you, you lose. Toxic folks will insult you, humiliate you, give you backhanded compliments, and make you feel like you deserve this crappy relationship. Get rid of them before [...]
“Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”. Are you bored? Or more specifically, is your life boring? Do you feel stuck in your life? Is it hard for you to actually have fun? Don’t worry because I know how you feel. It seems we do the same things every day. So, for most of us, life is busy. However, we’re certain that there are times when we’re stuck at home, bored. We’ve all been there, when all our work is finished, or maybe everyone’s away and you’re home alone and bored. Today, let’s do something new and different. I would like to share with you 10 things to do when life gets bored. Go on a walk/run. Challenge yourself to leave your cell phone in your purse or pocket. Admire the view. Create a Vision Board. (Write down 5 things that you want to accomplish by next month.) Strengthen your brain (Read/Listen to books.) Become a member of a fitness gym. Provide service to others. (Help someone in your community.) Host a game night. (Invite your friends over for a fun night of board games.) Clean out your closet. (Make a trash pile, a donate pile, and a keep pile.) Challenge yourself. (Set some goals for yourself that you never really thought of achieving and set out to accomplish them.) Get out of the house and meet new people. (One of the absolute best ways to rid yourself of boredom is through stimulating conversation.) Cook for fun. (If you don't really consider yourself a baker, look online for some beginner recipes and you will surely find something easy and delicious.) “Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours." – Dale Carnegie The world and life – both are small. Go and enjoy every bit of it. Don’t miss the good things in life, worrying about the undesired. Stop being bored, and start being creative. When life is boring, I hope you'll use these ideas to help you get out of any slump. #AlrightNow #BreakOut
“Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you.” Remember the old phrase "garbage in, garbage out"? Imagine if next time you took out the garbage, rather than carry it outside to the bin, you develop a habit to empty the smelly, disgusting contents all over your yard. Funny right! But this is exactly what some of us do with our mind. We have a habit each year to dump unnecessary stuff or trash in our mind. We refuse to put the trashy thoughts in their rightful place, “out of our mind”. Our thoughts drive our emotions, which drive our behaviors, and ultimately determine our actions — what kind of life we live. The human mind is an amazing creation of God. Nothing on earth can match its capabilities or creativity. It controls feelings, thoughts, words, attitudes, and behavior. Do you know that we are what we believe we are? Someone once said, “It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to, has power over you if you allow it.” Dr. Caroline Leaf says this in her book Switch On Your Brain, “As we think, we change the physical nature of our brain. As we consciously direct our thinking, we can wire out toxic patterns of thinking and replace them with healthy thoughts.” “2019 Rule Your Mind” In 2019 push out toxic thinking and replace it with positive thoughts. Let’s start the beginning of the year by taking authority over our thoughts. Get to the mirror and say, “I’m not afraid anymore, whatever it is I’ve been running from, whatever situation that’s been holding me back, pulling me back from my blessing. Today I’m getting ready to fight this thing to the end. I’m getting my mind back on track. Yes, my checkbook may not say I’m rich. The economy doesn’t say I’m wealthy. The medical report doesn’t say I’m healed. But God of universe, I believe you will supply all of my needs. I believe for some unexpected money to appear in my life. God, I believe that I’m healed. I believe an unexpected healing will occur in my life. God, I believe you’ll give me my heart’s desire. I believe my dream will happen sooner than later.” Look folks, you have to believe it before you’ll ever see it. Something has to change within your mind. Something has to change psychologically. Take authority over your mind, remind yourself not to focus on the negativity, and instead, try to focus on something positive. Control your thoughts before they control you. By controlling your thoughts, you are in control of your mind. Wow! By letting go, you can actually control your mind instead of having your mind control you. Lastly, there are 3 things you can do this year to keep your mind under your rulership. Keep Positive Company If you can't get troublesome feelings out of your mind, it may [...]
Learn How Saying No Can Be Liberating! “Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”. Is your need to please everyone getting in the way of your happiness? Exhausted. Empty. Enslaved. Do those words describe you? We have probably said “YES” more than enough times and it has caused us stress. Why is it that one of the most common words in the English language is so difficult to say? I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me, there are lots of reasons I have a hard time with that one simple word. I want to please people. I don’t want to be mean or unhelpful. I don’t want to burn a bridge or miss an opportunity or miss out on something fun. I don’t want people to be mad or upset with me or to speak poorly of me. So sometimes I’ll say “Yes” to avoid that feeling. Hmmm….. Does that sound like some of you? Why don’t we say “no?” We don’t have the guts to do it. We don’t want to ruffle anyone’s feathers. We’re afraid people will think that we’re not committed. We’re concerned that people will think we’re not team players. We’re concerned that people will think we are unwilling to sacrifice. And so, time and time again, we say yes when we shouldn’t. Often at the expense of something else. Does this sound like you? A yes comes out of your mouth before you have the chance to stop it and you are agreeing to something you don’t want to do. Believe it or not, saying yes to everything is also an addiction. Often times, our guilt, fear and anxiety rule our minds when we say no. Read this carefully Alrighters: Don’t feel the need to feel guilty about your decision. This will only promote anxiety and unwanted stress. Be confident when you say “NO.” Don’t always see saying “no” as letting down another person. See it as an opportunity to do something to make yourself happy and focus on your wants and needs. So, say goodbye to being a people pleaser and learn how to confidently say no to someone without feeling bad about it. Get rid of those who use you or take advantage of you. They never call you or think of you unless they need something from you – and they’re really good at persuading you to give in to them. There’s another word for that kind of persuasion: it’s called mass manipulation. Do you feel like you’ve been manipulated, taking advantage of? If so, it’s time to WIN back your life! “It’s only by saying “no” that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.” – Steve Jobs DON’T BE AFRAID TO SAY “NO” Never dwell on what people think about your decision. Walk away with peace of mind. Let it go! YOU DON’T NEED TO [...]
Use These Sure-Fire Tips to Conquer Your Fears! “Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”. Are you a FEAR KICKER? “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” — Nelson Mandela The number one barrier to living confidently is FEAR. You, quite frankly, deal with it every day in small and large doses. Fear has a way of keeping you in prison and preventing you from living the big life you imagine. Fear is the little monster that sits on our shoulders, holding us back from growth, success, fulfillment and happiness. It's fear that prevents you from being an entrepreneur. It's fear that stops you from ending a relationship you know is wrong for you. It’s fear that invades your thinking while taking an exam. It's fear that hold you from living your best life. Sometimes we are aware of our fear, but much of the time, we are so “used to it” that it becomes our normal. Obviously, this is a HUGE problem! WAKE up reader. “Fear is STEALING your life!” Fear is taking stealing everything that you suppose to have, like love, joy, peace, and happiness. I always say, your fear should not have a cozy room in your life. “Whatever you do — don't let your fear live with you. KICK FEAR TO THE CURB." I've spent many years of my life believing, one day, I'll be the person I was meant to be. I waited and hoped, and I circled my comfort zone like a sad puppy. I now realize the key is to get beyond that and take risks without letting the fear of failure take over. By taking calculated risks, not being afraid to try new things, and continually challenging ourselves, it becomes easy to cultivate openness to new experiences. If you want to live fearlessly, you absolutely must let go of some beliefs and actions. Here are some of them: What other people think of you. You will never please everyone, and it is hardly worth sacrificing yourself to entertain some other person's beliefs about who you should be or what you should do. Fear of failing. You will fail. Again and again and again. Legendary speaker Les Brown said, “You will fail your way to success.” It is an inevitable part of success. Accept that, and failure won't be so intimidating. The discomfort of fear. Fear is annoying or uncomfortable. No one likes to be sitting in fear. We'll do just about anything to bypass it. But you must know from experience, it is temporary. And it doesn't kill you. Fear disappears when confronted! As I conclude this article, do what scares you. Start small: take baby steps. If your dream is to speak in front of a room, but the [...]
Make Your Dreams Come True by Mapping Out Your Desires! “Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”. Just because others can’t see or understand your dreams doesn’t mean they are not valid or real. They are your dreams! Dreams only you can envision for your own life. Recently I traveled to Los Angeles, California on a business trip. While there, I was privileged to meet with Hollywood Celebrity and AlrightNow.com Creator, Tracey Edmonds. We sat and discussed so many essential things, but what we collectively enjoyed the most was the discussion on how to use a blueprint to maintain our focus towards our dreams. Some of you that are reading this article may say, “What’s a blueprint?” A blueprint is a design plan, draw up, or model. I know you have dreams for your life, yet it can sometimes feel impossible to make them real. Mainly because you haven’t yet found a blueprint to actually accomplish your greatest dreams. Most of us work so hard during the week with our 9-5 jobs that we don’t have time to literally draw out our blueprint for our own dreams. Once we get home from working an 8 to 9 hour day, we are too exhausted to do anything but eat and sleep. Well if you’re reading this, I want you to at least give 1 hour a day on the blueprint to your dream. I believe you were created on purpose, you are here to succeed and fulfill your dreams. So, you’ve made a decision, you’ve decided enough is enough, that there’s more to life than your 9 to 5 job and you’re going to make a change. So, what’s stopping you? Well, here are some strategies I would like to share with you that will help build your blueprint to success! Remember, “A goal without a plan is just a wish!” Visualize Your New Life However crazy it sounds, when you start seeing your new reality, you will start SEEING your new reality. Allow this to be embedded into your everyday life. For example, instead of going home after work and immediately cutting on Netflix, replace that routine by going to a quiet place in your home and for 10 minutes, visualize yourself living your best life. Visualization is defined as to recall or form mental images or pictures; to make visual or visible; to form a mental image of; or to make perceptible to the mind or imagination. “To bring anything into your life, imagine that it’s already there.” - Richard Bach So if you keep visualizing your gorgeous house on the hills, overlooking a vineyard, where you're with your children and with the love of your life...don't be shocked when that becomes your reality! It's like you're sending an order form to the God of the Universe saying, "Here are my desires, and I know you will grant them!" It’s not good enough [...]
Learn how to build your self esteem and get the life you want! When you aren't confident in yourself, you don't take risks, don't appreciate life and usually end up stuck/bogged down in places you don't want to be. Low self-confidence often lies beneath the surface, crippling you in ways you aren't aware of. It’s easy to get stuck at work (or in life) when you’re playing small, and not pushing yourself or taking risks because you lack the confidence. Confidence is a mental make-up or a way of thinking. It’s a technique that can be learned, and one of the ways to assemble your self-confidence is by practicing it every day. "Low self-confidence isn't a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered--just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better." -Barrie Davenport Try these five tips to start building your self-confidence today. Don't just read them and put them on hold. Really begin to practice them daily, beginning today. EVUALATE YOUR INNER CIRCLE DO THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU INSPIRE YOU? How many times have you aspired to be an author or to be an entrepreneur only to have your friend laugh and go, “Yeah, we’ll see how that goes.” If the people in your circle can’t picture you living your best life, then it’s time to replace them with people that can. People that can help build your confidence to go beyond your limitations. Find or locate people who make you feel good about yourself and avoid those who commonly trigger your negative thinking. DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS “Do not underestimate yourself by comparing yourself with others. It’s our differences that make us Unique and Beautiful.” -Author Unknown Comparing yourself to others is one of the easiest ways to feel bad about yourself. Comparing your appearance or your personality is unfortunately a way to tank your self-confidence. You see what others are doing on social media, with pictures etc., and feel like they have it better than you do. Social Media comparisons can be unhealthy and can lead to unhappiness. For example it can lead you into greater stress, anxiety, depression, jealousy, and cause you to make poor decisions. One way to improve your self-confidence is to simply spend less time on social media comparing yourself to others. ACT POSITIVE, THINK POSITIVE POSITIVE ACTIONS WILL LEAD TO POSITIVE THINKING As the saying goes, you are how you act. Talk with people in a positive way and act the way you want to be. Do things that are known to bring happiness and wellbeing, like getting out in nature, expressing gratitude, meditating, and being social. If you spend time doing the things you enjoy, you’re more likely to think positively. Celebrating life is a great way to build confidence and start feeling better about yourself. PUSH YOURSELF OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE "When you go out of your [...]
How to leave your negative past behind and enjoy the present! “Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”. There are some people in our lives who enter like hurricanes or tornados, destroying everything in their path. If you’re not careful, they can take over your life and leave you feeling physically and mentally drained. There are some doors that take a long time to close, and when that finally does occur, we should not, under any circumstances, by any means, open them again. The fact is we never experience a life without pain and we are afraid that we are not capable of it. Or worse, we are afraid that we don’t deserve it. Trust me, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY, AND FREE! Reopening the door to your past sucks the happiness out of your life, makes you stressed, and hurts your ability to focus and to push yourself forward. Give yourself a chance to live your best life to the fullest and let the past go! If no one has told you, let me be the first to say: It’s okay to… Ignore phone calls and messages Tell them that you want to be left alone Block them on social media if need be “Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” ―Ann Landers Don’t be ashamed, don’t feel stupid. I, likewise, have experienced difficulties with leaving things in the past. So, if you’re currently dealing with this process, you may feel a bit awkward, and that’s OK. This feeling is normal. I’ve realized that if all you do is attempt to commemorate or focus on something that has already happened, you’re missing out. You may say, “Sir, what am I missing out?” Ok, here’s the answer: The mental or psychological space you create by letting go of things that are already behind you gives you the ability to fill the space with something fresh and fun. “Why stay in the old, when you can walk in the NEW?” -Lyoshi Esters “The greatest step towards a life of simplicity is to learn to let go.” ― Steve Maraboli Slavery is a thing of the past, but by clutching or holding on to something, you are making yourself a slave and those meaningless things you refuse to let go of become your master. Don’t go back and reopen the door. Walk away and leave your past. Let’s Talk About Relationships Sometimes relationships can be saved and passions rekindled. And sometimes we know that when something is over, it needs to remain over. We’ve all been told: “You’re too good for him/her!” “You can do better!” And yet we STILL DON’T LISTEN. You know you’re being treated carelessly, and that you deserve more. Yet, you sit staring [...]