About Maria Marklove

Maria Marklove is a high performance and mental resilience coach, specialising in habit change. Tiny Buddha readers are encouraged to find out more about her best-selling course Thinking Into Results, which has been described as "life changing".

6 Powerful Steps to Stop Binge Eating for Good

“As long as you are breathing, there is more right with you than wrong with you, no matter how ill or how despairing you may be feeling in a given moment.” ~Jon Kabat-Zinn   Binge eating is hard. For me, winter time has always been hardest. The winter of 2011 was particularly bad. It was then that I sat, hands clasped around my knees, thinking about how best to kill myself. Hopeless only scratches the surface of what I was feeling—that same feeling I’d had on-and-off for fifteen years. I was twenty-three. I’d spent half my life in darkness. I went over the mathematics: Depression + Eating Disorder = Agonizing Existence. I was finally ready to admit I needed help. So as I sat there, I vowed to put an end to my suffering. I told myself “I’m going to give this one final push. I’ll put all of my energy into stopping this continual depression, and these cycles of binge eating and starving myself. If it still doesn’t work, I’ll just kill myself.” It really was that simple. By the end of 2011, I didn’t want to kill myself anymore. A few years later, I’d stopped binge eating completely. These days, I’ve never been happier. I don’t get depressed anymore. I am healthy, mentally and physically, and I try to live every day in gratitude, happiness, and well-being. That’s how I know you can do this too, and why today I’m sharing with you six powerful steps that I found essential to my journey. 1. Realize there’s nothing wrong with you. I know it feels like you’re a disgusting, terrible person for binge eating. I know you don’t understand what’s going on, or what happened to your “willpower.” I know you’re starting to feel insane. But listen up: there is nothing wrong with you. Binge eating isn’t about food; it’s about emotions. People deal with their emotions in all kinds of ways. If you’re at the end of your tether, you might do drugs, you might drink, you might get really angry with the people you love, you might have anxiety attacks, and/or you might binge eat. This isn’t a judgment call. Binge eating is just what you’re doing to try to deal with difficult emotions in the best way you know how right now. That doesn’t mean you’re broken, that doesn’t mean you’re going to “be like this forever,” and it doesn’t mean you can’t learn how to cope in different and more productive ways. It’s completely natural and normal to want to feel better. So although it’s not ideal to binge, know that it is human, and it is okay. 2. Reattach your head to your body. Up until I was twenty-three, I didn’t even know I had a body. I will never forget this: one day, I was walking up a hill to my office (I was doing a Ph.D. at the time) and suddenly I just felt terrible. Then I was [...]

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