Learn how to keep haters away!
“Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you.”
What do you do when they scandalize your name? What do you do when they assassinate your character? What do you do when they dishonor you? What do you do when they crush your feelings? What do you do when you find out who you thought was your friend was really your enemy? What do you do when the one you supported is the one trying to hurt you? What do you do when the one who talks to you is the one who talks about you? What do you do when the one who looks like they are pushing you up, is really pulling you down? How do you rise above the haters?
There is a very trendy phrase in today’s society that I would like to use, “haters gonna hate.” It means that people who don’t like you will always find a reason to disapprove you, no matter what the reason may be. This exact phrase is very true because there will always be someone around who just doesn’t like who you were created to be. “Haters gonna hate, hate, hate” song lyrics pop into my mind when I think about those who may have an evil eye against you. So, how do you combat those who despise you?
Rely on “True Friends”
When haters are all around you, it’s very essential to surround yourself with great people – true friends that push you to be your best in life. Make sure that you know who your true friends are and ensure that they believe who you were created to be. Allow your “True Friends” to fill your cup of positivity. This will counter negative things your haters may say about you. When you surround yourself with friends like this, your life will completely change. You become more positive, driven, and focused on your priorities not your “HATERS”. Before you know it, you’ll be surrounding yourself with friends that lift you up and distancing yourself from the people that drag you down.
“Don’t you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness that you are.” – Jo Blackwell-Preston
Cyber haters are very effective. Don’t give into it. Don’t acknowledge their existence or their efforts to harass. Not only will they likely stop since you are not giving them the attention they crave, but it sends the message that they are such a waste of your time and energy, that you don’t even bother/care. Now, you can cling to the hate and allow it to mold who you are as an individual, or you can let it all slide off your shoulders.
“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” – Bindi Irwin
If you need to go a step further there is POWER in the delete button. If someone is saying something negative about you on your social media networks, then delete their comments. If their behavior becomes outrageous, then unfriend or block the person. Hating is their game, the fuel they thrive on. Don’t feed it anymore.
You deserve to live a life full of good energy. That goes for your personal social media networks as well.
“Love Yourself “
Don’t allow the past to become you. Stop saying “I’d be a different person if this didn’t happen.” The truth is, you are who you are for a reason. You’ve made your decisions, you’ve faced the consequences. Why let your haters influence who you are now?
Haters say awful, distasteful, and derogatory things to knock others down and make themselves feel like they’re rising above. Don’t question yourself. You are a new person. Remember that the old is gone, the new has come. You know you are a good person. The people who know and love you, know you are good.
You can’t let the past define your future. Sometimes, it’s easy to be caught up in what others may say about you based on your past. But, the truth is that you have a choice to not let these tangles entrench you. You have to keep walking regardless of the mistakes you’ve made and love yourself. You have the option to not let the past define you. You have the grace to start over.
“If people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you’ve made, if they don’t realize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to go.” – Steve Maraboli
Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you may encounter.
To me, love is a recognition of self-worth. When I talk about loving ourselves, I mean having a deep appreciation for who we are. Regardless of our flaws, our embarrassments, we are who we are and we must embrace that with love. It doesn’t matter who you were or where you were. It matters who you are and who you choose to be. Forget your haters. Remember how many things you’ve done right. You have come so far, and for that, I’m proud of you. Love Yourself!
Hope your cup is full of positivity!