“Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you.”


Learning to let go of something in your past can be one of the hardest things in life. Yes, letting go is very difficult.

I once thought it meant a sign of weakness if I didn’t hold on. We often feel that if we let go of something or someone, we are giving up.

Actually, the best thing for us is to be set free. To let go of that old jacket that you know you will never wear again, to let go of that old car that’s no longer drivable, to let go of that person that we once loved, and might still love, but deep down know they aren’t right for us. Yes, it’s easier said than done. As humans we’re accustomed to holding on, it makes us feel strong, it’s comfortable, and it’s what we know.

However, if we’re stuck on the past, how can we open our hearts and minds to new things?

In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find new things in your future.

We hold the key to our future and it can be designed to our own liking. But often what we do is we let our past determine the design of our future. And as a result, it looks quite similar to our past.

The desperate attempt to hold on to the things that were familiar to us limits our capability to experience happiness and joy in the next chapter of life.

If we are going to open the door to our future, we have to throw away our key to the past. We have to let go of all the pain, all the agony, and all the grief that’s in our heads. I’ve learned in my coaching practice to be direct with less steps in order for you to retain or remember our session. Let’s begin!!


Here are two simple steps to set yourself free:


Step One: Forgive the People Who Hurt You

It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody ~Maya Angelou

When you’ve been hurt by someone, it’s not always easy to let it go. But holding on to a grudge will only make you feel worse. If you hang on to bitterness, disappointment, and ill will towards those who have harmed you, you are willingly handing your future to them. Zig Ziglar once said “just because somebody screwed up your past, it doesn’t mean you should give them permission to screw up your future.”

Forgiveness is about braking free from the chains that bind you.

Forgiveness is about moving on.

Forgiveness is about refusing to replay the same event in your mind over and over again, like a broken robot.

Forgiveness is about giving yourself a clean slate.

Forgiveness is our choice and often our pathway to freedom and a brighter future.


Here’s an exercise I want you to do, write down the name of the person you have chosen to forgive.

Next, be transparent with yourself and write down all of the hurtful things you’ve done to someone years ago or recently.

I wholeheartedly believe that when we recognize how much we need forgiveness, it makes it easier to show forgiveness to those who have hurt us. Keep what you have written and reflect on it while you are on the journey of forgiveness.


Step Two: Forgive the People Who Hurt You

See what’s right here, Right Now!

What do you see?

Can you be grateful for something in front of you right now?

There are always things to be thankful for — loved ones, health, having a job, having a roof over your head and clothes on your back, life itself.

Focus on those things that make you grateful. It will slowly change your mood.

Someone once said that you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.

Many people will see something difficult as a bad thing. If you can’t enjoy life because of a past situation, it’s a reason to complain, it’s a time of self-pity. Avoid complaining and self-pity because that won’t get you anywhere. Instead, learn to be grateful for the past, move on and know it’s an opportunity to grow.

Allow your cup to be filled with positivity for the present.

Carry that energy with you. Let it guide you in the direction you’re destined to go, along with the path that you are destined to take.

As we do that, we’ve transformed our past into a moment of joy.

So…If we let go, and set yourself free, our tomorrows will be better than our yesterdays.