“Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”.
Are you ready to love yourself?
If you can’t love yourself, you’re going to have a hard time truly loving the world around you and enjoying the life you’re living.
Are you ready to take responsibility for your experience and begin to lead a happy, full life?
Here are 4 important ways that can help you love yourself!
1. Eliminate Negative Self-Talk – Utilize the Power of Positive Talk
Negative self-talk limits you, increases stress, and hurts your self-concept. Here’s a tip, as you notice yourself saying something negative in your mind. You can stop your thought mid-stream by saying to yourself, “Stop.” Saying this aloud will be more powerful, and having to say it aloud will make you more aware of how many times you are stopping negative thoughts. Replace it with Positive Affirmations like: I ENJOY THE VARIETY OF LIFE. I SEE AND VALUE MY UNIQUENESS. I AM EASY ON MYSELF. I KNOW I AM DOING THE BEST I CAN. I GO FOR THAT WHICH MAKES ME FEEL GOOD. I FEEL ALIVE. I AM CREATING A GOOD LIFE FOR MYSELF. I LOVE WHERE I COME FROM. I LOVE WHERE I AM. I LOVE WHERE I AM GOING. I AM HAPPY TO BE ME. I AM TOTALLY FREE.
If you are ready to change your life then you must first change the way you talk to yourself.
2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others – Focus on You
If you struggle with issues of self-esteem and insecurity, the worst possible thing you can do to yourself is to compare yourself to someone else.
There is a plethora of ways to compare yourself to others, and all of them lead to feeling bad about yourself: grades, sports, job title, income, career advancement, social media followers, etc.
When you compare yourself to others, the worst thing you can do is bank on your limitations. People often concentrate on what they’re not good at and they spend their time wishing they could be better.
“Find out who you are and do it on purpose.” – Dolly Parton
Compare yourself to your goals. Compare yourself to your values. Compare yourself to where you were.
Just leave other people out of the comparisons and you’ll do fine.
“Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.” – John Spence
3. Distance Yourself from Those Who Bring You Down – Toxic People
Toxic people aren’t actually interested in you and your life. Being in no relationship is better than being in a wrong one. Don’t worry too much about folks who don’t worry about you. Know your worth! When you give yourself to those who disrespect you, you lose. Toxic folks will insult you, humiliate you, give you backhanded compliments, and make you feel like you deserve this crappy relationship. Get rid of them before they make you feel any worse than you do now. Having a friend who treats you poorly can really affect how you feel about yourself. Are they really worth the depressed feelings? No. You can be in control. Getting the negativity out of your life will make you feel powerful and in control. Your friends in life should motivate, inspire, and respect you. Your circle should be well rounded and supportive. Keep it tight. Quality over quantity, always.
4. Forgive Your Past Self
There’s nothing worse than that feeling of utter defeat and despair that comes along with making major mistakes in life and failing. It’s like having a dagger driven straight through your heart.
If you’re facing a serious setback in your life right now, then my heart goes out to you. I know the feeling of being completely decimated right down to the bone. I know how it feels to not have the will to go on for another day. But it does get better. It just takes time.
Forgiving yourself is not about forgetting. It is about not bringing the offense up to yourself in negative ways.
Forgiving ourselves does not let us off the hook, it does not justify what we have done, and it is not a sign of weakness. Forgiveness is a choice that takes boldness and strength, and it gives us the opportunity to become an overcomer rather than remaining a victim.
Find the silver-lining, reshape your goals, commit to living your life differently, relax, breathe, and let go.
“Forgive yourself. Love yourself enough to let go of any emotion that is hurting you. Let go of the anger, the guilt, the hatred, the blame… And set yourself free.” – Max Lucado
Today is the day you can love yourself totally with no expectations.