Do you know that people who are stuck having the same problem are in a cycle? It’s like they are on a treadmill going nowhere. You face the same old stuff year after year. Same old job year after year, wishing you could get out, situations with your children, the financial treadmill, chronic failure, repeated illness or sickness, family dysfunction, and negativity.

You feel like you’re going to suffocate because there is so much weighing you down. You don’t really know why, but this force is relentless. No matter what you do, you carry this knotted heaviness inside everywhere you go. You keep repeating the pattern and now nothing feels right anymore.

You look at your life and marvel at how it doesn’t feel like ‘yours’ at all. You desperately want to escape; you badly want to move beyond the cycle. However, you keep going around in a circle. Have you ever felt sometimes that your life was going around in circles? It can be frustrating, dizzying, discouraging and hard to know what to do about it.

So what are some steps to break this cycle?


  1. Ban Negative Self Talk

Do you often identify with your struggles? “I’m depressed.” “I’m a failure at school/work/life.” In those words, you can hear, “This struggle is me,” or “I’ll never overcome it.” How many of you have said these words, either to your closest confidante or just to yourself, when no one else is around?

You’ve been brainwashed to go from powerful to powerless, but you don’t have to remain stuck in that place. There is a way out of this cycle, and it starts from looking within. After reading this article, go find a mirror and say, “I will listen to that whisper of hope that says, ‘you can do it, try again.’”

“You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible.” -Les Brown


  1. Cultivate gratitude

You’ve probably heard it a million times, but keeping a gratitude journal about what you’re thankful for can have a big effect on your mindset.

“Gratitude is the heart’s memory,” says the French proverb.

You might wonder, when things go wrong what do you really have to be grateful about?

Think of the worst times in your life, your losses, your sadness, and then remember that here you are, standing tall, that you made it through the worst times of your life. You got through the confusion, you got through the obstacles, you endured the storm, you survived the dark relationship. Remember what you’ve gone through, then look to see where you are headed.


  1. Love and Accept Yourself

Unconditional love means you love yourself no matter what. It means you have unconditional worth. Love yourself without judgment. To love yourself is to be with yourself through the hard times. The love deep inside awaits you to come home. It is your palace of refuge, a place that knows no bounds, other than to receive you in its arms and awaken you to your authentic self. Don’t just take my word for it because it appears on your screen. Reunite with this existing love by standing in front of a mirror and reciting the words: “I love you” the moment you finish reading this article.


“Love yourself first, because that’s who you’ll be spending the rest of your life with.”

by Anonymous


I challenge you today to break the cycle of living life the same old way.

I want you to believe in your heart and shout with joy “I AM A CYCLE BREAKER.”