The Power of No

2018-10-11T16:14:37+00:00 By |

Learn How Saying No Can Be Liberating!


“Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”.


Is your need to please everyone getting in the way of your happiness?

Exhausted. Empty. Enslaved. Do those words describe you?

We have probably said “YES” more than enough times and it has caused us stress.

Why is it that one of the most common words in the English language is so difficult to say? I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me, there are lots of reasons I have a hard time with that one simple word. I want to please people. I don’t want to be mean or unhelpful. I don’t want to burn a bridge or miss an opportunity or miss out on something fun. I don’t want people to be mad or upset with me or to speak poorly of me. So sometimes I’ll say “Yes” to avoid that feeling.  Hmmm….. Does that sound like some of you?

Why don’t we say “no?”

We don’t have the guts to do it.

We don’t want to ruffle anyone’s feathers.

We’re afraid people will think that we’re not committed.

We’re concerned that people will think we’re not team players.

We’re concerned that people will think we are unwilling to sacrifice.

And so, time and time again, we say yes when we shouldn’t. Often at the expense of something else.

Does this sound like you? A yes comes out of your mouth before you have the chance to stop it and you are agreeing to something you don’t want to do.

Believe it or not, saying yes to everything is also an addiction. Often times, our guilt, fear and anxiety rule our minds when we say no. Read this carefully Alrighters: Don’t feel the need to feel guilty about your decision. This will only promote anxiety and unwanted stress. Be confident when you say “NO.” Don’t always see saying “no” as letting down another person. See it as an opportunity to do something to make yourself happy and focus on your wants and needs.

So, say goodbye to being a people pleaser and learn how to confidently say no to someone without feeling bad about it.

Get rid of those who use you or take advantage of you. They never call you or think of you unless they need something from you – and they’re really good at persuading you to give in to them.


There’s another word for that kind of persuasion: it’s called mass manipulation.

Do you feel like you’ve been manipulated, taking advantage of?

If so, it’s time to WIN back your life!


“It’s only by saying “no” that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.” – Steve Jobs   



Never dwell on what people think about your decision. Walk away with peace of mind. Let it go!



No means no. In other words, the reasons why don’t matter. If you don’t want to do it, you don’t have to do it, and no one can force you to do it. Don’t let others intimidate you into having to explain yourself to them. The less said the better.



Love yourself enough to set boundaries.

“When you say ‘Yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to yourself.” ~ Paolo Coehlo

Love yourself enough to say no to things and others that no longer serve you. You do not owe an explanation. Your truthful “no” is enough.


It was the great Warren Buffett who said, “The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say no to almost everything.”


I want you to look in the mirror and say these words every morning: I’m no longer a slave to the word “YES”. I’m free to say “NO” to whatever is not bringing me happiness. I deserve to be “FREE.”


Hope your cup is full of positivity!  


About the Author:

Lyoshi Esters’ is a native of Virginia his heart pumps with passion as he promotes positive change. He motivates and educates people on how to overcome the challenges of this world. His life story has inspired many people to believe that their life is never over unless they believe it’s over. He is the Pastor of Fire for Christ Ministries, in Farmville, Virginia.  He has also studied and became a professional life coach at Erickson Coaching International where he successfully completed certified coursework in the area of "The Art & Science of Coaching". Lyoshi Esters attends Southern New Hampshire University majoring in social psychology. He is a soon to be author with the release of his first book "Let There Be Light" How to think positive when darkness is all around you. Lyoshi’s mission is to motivate others to not limit themselves, so that they can step into their greatness to find their light and purpose in the world.

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