How a Hobby Can Boost Your Motivation and Change Your Life

“If you want to be happy, be.” ~Leo Tolstoy   We’ve all hit a low motivational point in our lives at one time or another. I am completely aware of that feeling of having nothing to fight for. In those reoccurring periods of despondency, I couldn’t find a reason to get myself out of bed. It’s funny that I got the life-changing question at a job interview. It was a stressful situation, and the hiring manager made it even more overwhelming when he looked at me straight in the eyes and asked: “What motivates you in life?” I can’t remember what I answered, but I do remember the devastation I felt from the true answer I found in me: “Nothing, nothing motivates me.” That was the turning point. Lots and lots of meditations later, I realized where all that frustration was coming from: I didn’t have a single thing that made me happy. Why was I so incomplete? I couldn’t get a job that made me feel useful, and all my friendships were superficial. I’ll spare you from the details of my reasoning process. I didn’t read, I didn’t write, I wasn’t trying to learn anything, I didn’t have a special someone in my life, and I didn’t have a hobby. A HOBBY! The sole thought of it made me burst in laughter. I’d never had a hobby. I basically had nothing to lose, so I decided I would give this idea a try. Picking a hobby was all I needed to do, and that’s how I ended up making endless reading lists. I found different reasons why I needed a hobby: It helps people express their creativity. I had an office job at the moment, and I was a total slave of routine. I needed that ‘escape’ activity that left me alone with my thoughts. I was already meditating every day, but I couldn’t call that a hobby… it was more like a responsibility for me. And, to be honest, it was making me even more miserable: I knew I needed a and I knew I didn’t have the courage to leave my job. A hobby like gardening, jewelry making, painting, knitting, or anything else related to creating would allow me to keep touch with the inner artist. That special activity clarifies the mind. It doesn’t matter what hobby I would pick. My options included reading, yoga, piano playing, running, or walking—all these activities have a meditative effect on the thoughts. The entire awareness is focused on the thing we are doing, and we can shut out every negative thought that was present before. In a way, when the hobby merges action and awareness, it becomes meditation in motion. Most hobbies have a social aspect. They give us the opportunity to interact with people who share our interests, so we develop connections that are not shallow at all. Let me tell you a secret: I have great communication with the people I met through [...]

2018-10-25T19:06:46+00:00 By |

What’s Your Risk-Taking IQ? Research Suggests How Much Risk We’re Willing to Take is Pre-Wired

Tips on How to Be a Bolder You!   Have you ever wondered what drives people to take certain risks, such as going bungee jumping or risking a financial gamble? While a person’s tendency to take risks will often vary, a new study has proven that over time a stable general factor affects general risk preference. Swiss and German researchers have recently finished a study that looked into this general factor of individual risk preference, “which remains stable over time” and is similar to the general Intelligence Quotient (IQ). The study, which was published in two journals (Science Advances and Nature Human Behaviour) was based on findings that involved 1,500 participants. (Related: Preventable Lifestyle Risks Kill More Than One Million Americans Yearly.) Individuals often make life-changing decisions based on various factors, but we don’t really know the nature of the risk preference that significantly affects risk-related decisions. Does a person’s risk preference have anything to do with the context or is it mostly the same even in different scenarios? It looks like the answer to both questions is “yes,” and findings from a large-scale study done by the Max Planck Institute for Human Development in Berlin and the University of Basel, which was accomplished with funding from the Swiss National Science Foundation, has the data to prove this. The Swiss and German researchers used three unique approaches to evaluate the risk preferences of 1,507 adults aged 20 to 36 years old: “self-reports on hypothetical risk scenarios,” “experimental behavioral tests involving financial incentives,” and “information on actual risky activities in everyday life.” Overall, the participants finished 39 tests in one day. The researchers then asked the 109 participants to retake the tests after six months to analyze the stability of the risk preference over time. Past studies on risk preference often relied on only one or only a handful of measurement instruments. Dr. Renato Frey from the University of Basel and the Max Planck Institute for Human Development shared, “Our findings indicate that risk-taking propensity has a psychometric structure similar to that of psychological personality characteristics. Like the general factor of intelligence, there is also a general factor of risk preference.” He added, “In other words, your willingness to take risks may vary across different areas of your life, but it will always be affected by the underlying general factor of risk preference.” To support this theory, the study’s results revealed that a person’s general factor of risk preference stays stable over time. The study also found that both the hypothetical scenarios and the reports on actual risk-taking behavior helped determine a similar analysis of a person’s unique risk preference. Meanwhile, a new picture resulted from the experimental behavior tests. Based on a comprehensive study of the differences, the researchers confirmed that for the different behavior test, participants used unique decision-making strategies. These strategies varied according to the type of behavioral task, like when risk was presented in the context of a game, or via a [...]

2018-10-09T18:52:11+00:00 By |

The Power of No

Learn How Saying No Can Be Liberating!   “Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”.   Is your need to please everyone getting in the way of your happiness? Exhausted. Empty. Enslaved. Do those words describe you? We have probably said “YES” more than enough times and it has caused us stress. Why is it that one of the most common words in the English language is so difficult to say? I can’t speak for anyone else, but for me, there are lots of reasons I have a hard time with that one simple word. I want to please people. I don’t want to be mean or unhelpful. I don’t want to burn a bridge or miss an opportunity or miss out on something fun. I don’t want people to be mad or upset with me or to speak poorly of me. So sometimes I’ll say “Yes” to avoid that feeling.  Hmmm….. Does that sound like some of you? Why don’t we say “no?” We don’t have the guts to do it. We don’t want to ruffle anyone’s feathers. We’re afraid people will think that we’re not committed. We’re concerned that people will think we’re not team players. We’re concerned that people will think we are unwilling to sacrifice. And so, time and time again, we say yes when we shouldn’t. Often at the expense of something else. Does this sound like you? A yes comes out of your mouth before you have the chance to stop it and you are agreeing to something you don’t want to do. Believe it or not, saying yes to everything is also an addiction. Often times, our guilt, fear and anxiety rule our minds when we say no. Read this carefully Alrighters: Don’t feel the need to feel guilty about your decision. This will only promote anxiety and unwanted stress. Be confident when you say “NO.” Don’t always see saying “no” as letting down another person. See it as an opportunity to do something to make yourself happy and focus on your wants and needs. So, say goodbye to being a people pleaser and learn how to confidently say no to someone without feeling bad about it. Get rid of those who use you or take advantage of you. They never call you or think of you unless they need something from you – and they’re really good at persuading you to give in to them.   There’s another word for that kind of persuasion: it’s called mass manipulation. Do you feel like you’ve been manipulated, taking advantage of? If so, it’s time to WIN back your life!   “It’s only by saying “no” that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.” – Steve Jobs      DON’T BE AFRAID TO SAY “NO” Never dwell on what people think about your decision. Walk away with peace of mind. Let it go!   YOU DON’T NEED TO [...]

2018-10-11T16:14:37+00:00 By |

Achieving Your Goals – Could You Be Sleeping Your Dreams Away?

Being Well Rested Helps You Get What You Want In Life!   Whether you’re fighting for weight loss, success at work, or you’re just working towards starting something new; achieving your goals is all about effort, right? But did you know that you could be literally sleeping away your success? Studies have found that there’s a huge (massive, really) link between sleep and things like weight or emotional stress. If you’re uneducated about what sleep should be like and how to achieve that, you could be ruining your goals and not even realize it; particularly, when you’re losing weight. It’s not just sleeping too little that could ruin your goals either – you could be sleeping too much! Studies found that with education alone, 100% of participants were able to improve their habits What does this mean? Simple, you can train yourself to sleep better. Better sleep, means better results when it comes to your goals.  When surveyed, 37 working women who were exhibiting poor sleeping habits were able to improve them with just 3-5 weeks of light educational training on effective sleep and good sleep hygiene. The three big effects poor sleep habits have and how they impact your goals There are three basic ways that have been proven again and again to disrupt your goals in terms of sleep problems. 1. Poor sleep hygiene has been linked to depression Studies have shown that if you have under 6 hours of sleep or over 8 hours of sleep, you’re at a much greater risk of depression. As someone who’s gone through bouts of depression, I’m here to say that this can and will definitely impact your motivation, will to keep moving, and overall energy level. 2.  Not getting enough sleep can dramatically affect our relationships When you’re trying to achieve something, a support system is fundamentally important. Medical News Today has reported that couples especially have been completely pinned each other against on another after even just one night of poor sleep when studied. 3.  Sleeplessness and oversleeping linked to diabetes and weight gain The international journal of obesity (IJO) has reported that there is a definite link between weight gain and sleeplessness. The truth is, gaining unwanted weight can be detrimental for your health; but what’s worse is the impact it has on your self-esteem, energy, and even your interpersonal relationships.  IJO reports, “The odds of obesity (BMI 30 kg/m2) was 3.7-fold greater (95% CI: 2.7–5.0) in men and 2.3-fold greater in women (95% CI: 1.6–3.1) who slept less than 5 h.”   What can you do to keep your goals from rotting away due to poor sleep? Your first step to making sure that you’re not impacted negatively by your sleeping habits is to educate yourself. It’s not enough just to think about sleep what can do. If you want to achieve your goals, you need to take actionable steps to improving your sleeping habits. Want to learn more about the steps you can [...]

2018-09-19T16:16:31+00:00 By |

Don’t Be Afraid to Make Mistakes, Dare Instead

Find Out Why Making Mistakes is Normal   Successful people are not afraid to make mistakes. They know that they learn from them. After every mistakes they make, they are aware that success is just around the corner. Idea is the first step towards riches. However, the idea may never see the light of day if you don’t dare. Success is impossible without the don’t courage to act boldly. Even if you fail, be persistent. Complete the tasks and achieve your dreams. Staying in you comfort zone is easy, it takes no action, but it also doesn’t bring any results. By staying passive you allow other influences control your life. Instead of you controlling your situation, you allow other things and other people control you. Why is it so hard Although daring seems intimidating, if you can control your mind to avoid all the fears that stop you from being great, you can achieve things you have always dreamed of. You’ll live an amazing life. If you are struggling with self-esteem, you need to become aware that you are the person who controls your own thought. By having more positive attitude, you make more positive results. Act. Release your fear. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Don’t be afraid of being judged. People will judge you whatever you do. It is easier than it seems By replacing your negative thoughts by positive ones in every situation you find yourself, you make your subconscious mind have positive attitude about all the situations you find yourself. Thus, you create your positive mindset. Subsequently, your positive mindset can only bring positive results. And, you’ll live the life you’ve always wanted. The key to every success story is to never give up. If you analyze all successful people in this world, you’ll find out that they made more mistakes than everyone else. However, persistence made them great. They did not give up. This is crucial for your success story. What to do Go meet new people, take the trip abroad you’ve always dreamed of, start learning a new language, start exercising. You’ll see that it was the first step that was the most difficult to make. After you make the first one, the next one seems to be easier than before. When you start doing it, you’ll find yourself with more self-confidence. And, you’ll be ready for more difficult tasks such as find a better job, start your own business, immigrate to a new country, start studying at the University etc. Don’t worry when you make a mistake during your journey. Everyone makes them. People who don’t make mistakes, don’t do much. Learn from your mistakes and don’t let them discourage you or make you feel bad about yourself. It is impossible to succeed without making at least one mistake. Furthermore, you need to learn how to encourage yourself. You don’t need encouragement from other people. You’ll never find it, anyway. Therefore, don’t feel the need to be motivated [...]

2018-09-19T14:34:34+00:00 By |

Kick Fear to The Curb

Use These Sure-Fire Tips to Conquer Your Fears!   “Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”.   Are you a FEAR KICKER? “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” — Nelson Mandela   The number one barrier to living confidently is FEAR. You, quite frankly, deal with it every day in small and large doses. Fear has a way of keeping you in prison and preventing you from living the big life you imagine. Fear is the little monster that sits on our shoulders, holding us back from growth, success, fulfillment and happiness. It's fear that prevents you from being an entrepreneur. It's fear that stops you from ending a relationship you know is wrong for you. It’s fear that invades your thinking while taking an exam. It's fear that hold you from living your best life. Sometimes we are aware of our fear, but much of the time, we are so “used to it” that it becomes our normal. Obviously, this is a HUGE problem! WAKE up reader. “Fear is STEALING your life!” Fear is taking stealing everything that you suppose to have, like love, joy, peace, and happiness. I always say, your fear should not have a cozy room in your life. “Whatever you do — don't let your fear live with you. KICK FEAR TO THE CURB." I've spent many years of my life believing, one day, I'll be the person I was meant to be. I waited and hoped, and I circled my comfort zone like a sad puppy. I now realize the key is to get beyond that and take risks without letting the fear of failure take over. By taking calculated risks, not being afraid to try new things, and continually challenging ourselves, it becomes easy to cultivate openness to new experiences. If you want to live fearlessly, you absolutely must let go of some beliefs and actions. Here are some of them: What other people think of you. You will never please everyone, and it is hardly worth sacrificing yourself to entertain some other person's beliefs about who you should be or what you should do. Fear of failing. You will fail. Again and again and again. Legendary speaker Les Brown said, “You will fail your way to success.” It is an inevitable part of success. Accept that, and failure won't be so intimidating. The discomfort of fear. Fear is annoying or uncomfortable. No one likes to be sitting in fear. We'll do just about anything to bypass it. But you must know from experience, it is temporary. And it doesn't kill you. Fear disappears when confronted! As I conclude this article, do what scares you. Start small: take baby steps. If your dream is to speak in front of a room, but the [...]

2018-08-22T18:06:38+00:00 By |

Are You Successful?

Are you successful? Somehow this phrase has gotten twisted in people’s minds and what is often heard is: “Are you financially well off?” I measure success in happiness, health, quality of life, family, friends and relationships and experiences. I enjoy my time here on earth (for the most part) (everyone has their days), and spend my time doing things I enjoy with people I care about. I listen to my intuition and inner guidance and if something doesn’t feel right? – I stop doing it. I live my life based in the idea that if I am enjoying life (and not hurting anyone) it is the right direction for me. I lead my life based in feeling rather than thought and being bogged down by the over thinking mind. Success to me is allowing myself to be vulnerable and open enough to really connect with other people, to let them see me as I am and to really listen and do the same with them. Success is being there as a friend when people need me.. and in turn they are there for me. Success is waking up and feeling good about myself and grateful for every thing that I have. Success is being able to be present in the now and appreciate what is rather than always wishing for what could be. Success is allowing all feelings fully no matter how uncomfortable because I know that stifling them leads to disaster. Success is doing what I feel is right vs. just what is easy.  Success is being fully me no matter what anyone thinks.   Interestingly because I don’t live in the mindset of lack but rather abundance, money always does seem to show up when I need it. When I was little my mom would reach in the glove box of the car at garage sales, find a few dollars, and declare “We’re rich!” so? I thought we were rich! Life, money, all of it – is about perception. Living from a mindset of lack and holding tightly to money creates stagnant energy. Giving freely with out fear to help others opens you up energetically to attract more abundance into your life. We are always divinely supported – we just have to allow it. What I put out there, money or other wise has always come back to me. So when someone asks “Sarah, are you successful?” My answer is a resounding yes. Every day in every way I am getting better and better and better. https://www.naturalnewsblogs.com Please visit www.sarahbarendse.com for the latest articles!

2018-08-21T18:21:35+00:00 By |

What’s Your Blueprint to Your Dream?

Make Your Dreams Come True by Mapping Out Your Desires!   “Hold up your cup here is some positive tea that I want to pour out for you”. Just because others can’t see or understand your dreams doesn’t mean they are not valid or real. They are your dreams! Dreams only you can envision for your own life. Recently I traveled to Los Angeles, California on a business trip. While there, I was privileged to meet with Hollywood Celebrity and AlrightNow.com Creator, Tracey Edmonds. We sat and discussed so many essential things, but what we collectively enjoyed the most was the discussion on how to use a blueprint to maintain our focus towards our dreams. Some of you that are reading this article may say, “What’s a blueprint?” A blueprint is a design plan, draw up, or model. I know you have dreams for your life, yet it can sometimes feel impossible to make them real. Mainly because you haven’t yet found a blueprint to actually accomplish your greatest dreams. Most of us work so hard during the week with our 9-5 jobs that we don’t have time to literally draw out our blueprint for our own dreams. Once we get home from working an 8 to 9 hour day, we are too exhausted to do anything but eat and sleep. Well if you’re reading this, I want you to at least give 1 hour a day on the blueprint to your dream. I believe you were created on purpose, you are here to succeed and fulfill your dreams. So, you’ve made a decision, you’ve decided enough is enough, that there’s more to life than your 9 to 5 job and you’re going to make a change. So, what’s stopping you? Well, here are some strategies I would like to share with you that will help build your blueprint to success! Remember, “A goal without a plan is just a wish!”  Visualize Your New Life However crazy it sounds, when you start seeing your new reality, you will start SEEING your new reality. Allow this to be embedded into your everyday life. For example, instead of going home after work and immediately cutting on Netflix, replace that routine by going to a quiet place in your home and for 10 minutes, visualize yourself living your best life. Visualization is defined as to recall or form mental images or pictures; to make visual or visible; to form a mental image of; or to make perceptible to the mind or imagination. “To bring anything into your life, imagine that it’s already there.” - Richard Bach So if you keep visualizing your gorgeous house on the hills, overlooking a vineyard, where you're with your children and with the love of your life...don't be shocked when that becomes your reality! It's like you're sending an order form to the God of the Universe saying, "Here are my desires, and I know you will grant them!" It’s not good enough [...]

2018-08-17T14:52:33+00:00 By |

How to Increase Your Self-Confidence

Learn how to build your self esteem and get the life you want!   When you aren't confident in yourself, you don't take risks, don't appreciate life and usually end up stuck/bogged down in places you don't want to be. Low self-confidence often lies beneath the surface, crippling you in ways you aren't aware of. It’s easy to get stuck at work (or in life) when you’re playing small, and not pushing yourself or taking risks because you lack the confidence. Confidence is a mental make-up or a way of thinking. It’s a technique that can be learned, and one of the ways to assemble your self-confidence is by practicing it every day. "Low self-confidence isn't a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered--just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better." -Barrie Davenport Try these five tips to start building your self-confidence today. Don't just read them and put them on hold. Really begin to practice them daily, beginning today.   EVUALATE YOUR INNER CIRCLE DO THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU INSPIRE YOU? How many times have you aspired to be an author or to be an entrepreneur only to have your friend laugh and go, “Yeah, we’ll see how that goes.” If the people in your circle can’t picture you living your best life, then it’s time to replace them with people that can. People that can help build your confidence to go beyond your limitations. Find or locate people who make you feel good about yourself and avoid those who commonly trigger your negative thinking.   DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS “Do not underestimate yourself by comparing yourself with others. It’s our differences that make us Unique and Beautiful.” -Author Unknown Comparing yourself to others is one of the easiest ways to feel bad about yourself. Comparing your appearance or your personality is unfortunately a way to tank your self-confidence. You see what others are doing on social media, with pictures etc., and feel like they have it better than you do. Social Media comparisons can be unhealthy and can lead to unhappiness. For example it can lead you into greater stress, anxiety, depression, jealousy, and cause you to make poor decisions. One way to improve your self-confidence is to simply spend less time on social media comparing yourself to others.   ACT POSITIVE, THINK POSITIVE POSITIVE ACTIONS WILL LEAD TO POSITIVE THINKING As the saying goes, you are how you act. Talk with people in a positive way and act the way you want to be. Do things that are known to bring happiness and wellbeing, like getting out in nature, expressing gratitude, meditating, and being social. If you spend time doing the things you enjoy, you’re more likely to think positively. Celebrating life is a great way to build confidence and start feeling better about yourself.   PUSH YOURSELF OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE "When you go out of your [...]

2018-08-03T18:25:00+00:00 By |