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8 Tips To Increase Your Family’s Happiness And Health

Two of the most important priorities that you will have in a family are the health and happiness of all family members.  Spend more quality time together doing activities that increase the strength of the bonds between family members. This is an excellent starting point to improve the health and happiness of your family. Adopt more healthy activities in the daily routine of your family. This can improve the lifespan and happiness of your family according to scientific studies. Creating healthy habits must start at a young age in your family as it inculcates the habit to follow for a lifetime. There are several activities and habits that you can start as a family that benefit all family members' health and happiness. Families can impart the confidence and encouragement to become the best version of themselves. Teaching these values in every family will lead to creating a happier and healthier society in the world. Through this article, let us go through the 8 tips to increase your family's health and happiness.   1. Focus on Proper Communication Communication is crucial for sustaining any relationship and the same is true in the case of family relationships. Even when you do not get time with a hectic daily routine, you will need to try communicating at least for some time each day. Communicating with each other allows you to unwind from the daily stress of life and also empathize with each other by understanding what they are going through.   2. Exercise Together Modern families often neglect the need for physical fitness in their daily routine, which can lead to a variety of physical and mental health issues. Leading a sedentary lifestyle is the leading cause of a variety of health issues and the rising rate of obesity and morbid conditions in children around the world. There is an increase in the number of children who are becoming overweight and obese due to the effects of an unhealthy lifestyle. These conditions also bring along a host of health problems such as asthma, diabetes, heart disease, and many more. Imparting values and following an active lifestyle will allow you to maintain a healthy weight. Exercising together is an excellent way to motivate each other to engage in physical activity and to make it even more fun.   3. Managing Stress The rise of the internet and smart gadgets are also contributing to limiting the time available to engage in physical activities. Additionally, the intense load on the children from modern life builds up stress, which can be bad for mental health. Excessive stress can cause exhaustion and a lack of enthusiasm. Hence, we need to find healthy ways to cope with it. Many parents are encouraging children to take part in exercises that relax the body and mind, such as yoga and stretching.   4. Spending Quality Time With Family Every relationship will have its fair share of conflicts, but you will need to find a way to [...]

2020-07-28T13:15:57-07:00 By |

Positive Thoughts Can Change Your Life – Here’s How!

Almost all of us want to expand our horizons and achieve our goals quickly. But it all starts with our thoughts. Negative thoughts limit our beliefs and restrict our potential. On the other hand, positive thoughts help expand it. You might have, at times, tried to transform things around you but did not get the results you expected. In this post, we discuss the basic things about positive thinking. We all see how the power of positive thoughts can change life and how you can start applying positive thinking in your daily life to see a difference.   The Power of Positive Thoughts Thinking positively does not mean you start living in a world of unicorns, ignoring the unpleasant events. Positive thoughts mean you respond to such situations in a positive way. When it comes to the manifestation of desires, our mind is the most powerful tool. It has a constant flow of thoughts. If most of these thoughts are negative, it implies that our outlook towards life is not optimistic. If a majority of our thoughts are positive, it means we are optimistic. Recent studies suggest that people should have positive thoughts and emotions. This not only makes them feel good but also transforms their lives for better. It also helps them move forward on the path towards good health, longevity and success. The power of positive thoughts is remarkable. It is true that your mind can transform your world. Happy people always think of what they want and how they can achieve it. This way, their positive attitude changes their entire life. Talking about your desires and dreams gives you a control over your life. When you think about something that makes you happy, you develop a feeling of general well-being. This way, you develop a positive attitude.   How To Develop Optimism? According to psychologists, healthy and happy people have a special characteristic that makes their lives better than others. The quality is optimism! And the good news is that you can learn to be optimistic. It is possible to learn thinking positively by adopting an optimistic mindset. The law of cause and effect works in this world. If you behave like other happy people, you also start feeling healthy and happy. If you follow people with a positive attitude, you get similar experiences and get the same results. Optimists are different from other average people as they have different ways to deal with the world. The first thing that sets them apart is focusing on what they desire and looking for ways to achieve it. Their minds are clear about their aspirations and they have confidence about accomplishing them. Another thing that defines optimists is looking for the good in every situation. Even when situations go wrong, they don’t criticize them. Instead, they say ‘This is good!’ and start looking for something good in the situation. If you try to find something good in a situation or person, you will succeed [...]

2020-07-27T17:31:51-07:00 By |

If You Hate Your Body and Think You Need to Fix It…

“That girl was fat, and I hate her.”   One of my clients said this the other day—about herself. Well, her little girl self. And my heart broke. One of the very first things I do with clients is encourage them to practice self-compassion and kindness—just extending themselves the same basic human compassion and kindness that they would anyone else. Very much the opposite of what most people who struggle with weight and food are used to. After all, when it comes to our weight and food, we’re programmed with messages like “You just have to want it more, be motivated, build your willpower muscle, try harder, work harder, be better…” Perhaps to some, it may sound easy or silly, and it’s hard to understand what the hell kindness and compassion have to do with weight and food struggles when we’re so programmed to believe the opposite. Just extending yourself some basic human kindness and compassion really does end up being one of the most important things to do when you’ve struggled with weight and food for a long time. It’s also the hardest, and some struggle more than others with this simple concept. Personally, I struggled hard with it when I first started trying. I hated myself. I hated and was ashamed of every single thing about me, and didn’t think I deserved any kindness or compassion. But I knew that if I ever wanted to change the way I felt about myself, I had to figure out how to find some. So, I started picturing a little girl version of myself when I felt like I needed kindness and compassion. If I couldn’t give it to myself, I’d pull up a mental image of her and direct it that way. It worked, and it’s a trick I’ve also been using with clients since. But the other day, this woman (like many others) said, “Little girl me was fat… and… I… hate her. How am I supposed to give it to her when I hate her too?” It broke my heart, but it didn’t surprise me, and as I think about it, it makes me angry. It makes me angry because this beautiful lady wasn’t born hating herself for a little belly roll. She learned to from our stupidly broken society and has carried that belief around with her every single day since. From the time we’re old enough to make any kind of sense out of the world around us, we’re taught that fat is the enemy. Mothers have been taking their kids to Weight Watchers meetings with them to get publicly shamed for the number on a scale since they were seven or eight. We’ve been warned “Better not eat that, you don’t want to get fat, do you?” as though it was a fate worse than death, while simultaneously being taught that food fixes everything. “What’s wrong honey, you’re sad? Here, have a cookie.” “Sore throat? Here, have some ice cream.” [...]

2020-03-23T19:15:07-07:00 By |

How I Found the Gift in My Pain and Let Go of Resentment

“Change is inevitable, growth is intentional.” ~Glenda Cloud   How much time slips by when you’re living in the pain of resentment? Do you ever question if your bitterness has held you back from living your true destiny? Is blaming everyone else sabotaging your life and future? It’s only now that I can admit to the years I wasted pointing the finger at everyone else. It was easier for me to say it was their fault than accept responsibility for my own decisions. For me, attaining perfection was validation to my success. If it wasn’t achievable, then it was obviously someone else’s fault. Until one day, I took the time to watch the Tony Robbins’ documentary movie, Guru, for the second time. Amazing when you watch something again or read a book twice, you get something different out of it. There was a young girl struggling with the lack of love she received from her drug-addicted father. After admitting that it was her father’s love she craved the most, Tony Robbins led her to a breakthrough perspective. He told her if you are going to blame him for everything that went wrong, like not being daddy’s girl, then don’t forget to blame him for making you a strong woman too. He reminded her that she was allowed to blame him for not being around but not to forget to blame him for teaching her how to cope at such a young age. Suddenly, I felt a shift within me. I connected to the anger deep within me, and somehow it no longer felt so heavy. What was happening? Unexpectedly, I realized the pain of my resentment was actually a gift. I have carried a lot of emotional weight in my heart, some of which still remains. My heaviness is rooted in childhood memories of hurt and confusion. At the blissful age of eleven, just when I thought life was pretty safe and stable, I had the rug ripped out from underneath of me. Infidelity and unfaithfulness had crept into our home and turned everything upside down. Everything I knew faded away, as my mother threw his things around, screaming and crying. She was so emotional, and I couldn’t help but feel sorry for her. Her anger was wrapped up in sadness as she packed up all of my father’s belongings into black trash bags. One by one out the door, like little pieces of my heart that she was just bagging up and throwing out. She set them out on our front lawn, and I stood there grieving. She didn’t see the little girl in the corner crying along with her. Someone forgot the little soul who was being traumatized by these big emotions. No one stopped the chaos for a minute to realize my heart was breaking too. My memories of Christmas traditions and Saturdays at the grocery store never came back. Everything changed, and I hated this new life. From then on, everyone was always seemed [...]

2020-03-23T19:02:00-07:00 By |

Dealing with Online Hate: What to Do When People Are Mean

“The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become.” ~Unknown   I work for a website that creates videos on lifestyle, fashion, food, travel, fitness, and more. Our channel has a massive following from all walks of life, and we receive a lot of love but also a bit of hate. Even though many people are involved in the production of a video (directors, videographers, editors), the comments, feedback, and of course the hate is usually directed at the face you see on camera, and that is the anchor—AKA me! When I started out as an anchor, I had already been modelling for a couple of years and felt comfortable in front of a camera. When videos came along, I took it up as a challenge, as an opportunity to test myself and see what I could do. Luckily for me, I really started to enjoy it. My initial videos garnered a huge response and some crossed hundreds of thousands of views. I was slightly intimidated but on a high as well because of how well they seemed to be doing. But slowly, as I grew into my role as an anchor, I realized that there was a whole other side to being in the public eye that I never knew about. For me, being on camera meant putting forth a good performance and getting appreciation or criticism on it. I believe that each one of us has the capability to deal with constructive criticism; we all want to grow, we all want to improve, don’t we? The problem starts when the criticism loses its perspective and becomes destructive and downright hurtful. One fine day, after the release of my latest video, I sat at home scrolling through the comments section and came across a really mean comment. It stung me. And I couldn’t help myself. I went down the rabbit hole of reading all my videos’ comments and found tons of negative ones. It was one of the lowest moments of my life. And oh, people are creative! The comments weren’t simply restricted to whether or not I was doing a good job as an anchor. They covered everything from shaming my body to even threats of physical harm. It close to shattered me to see all these mean things written about me by total strangers. Now, I know that we don’t all have to face the same amount of hate that people in media do. But in today’s age of social media, each one of us has dealt with some negativity on our Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter. And as someone who has dealt with a lot of it, I feel strongly about this! Below are a few things I did to deal with this trolling that really helped me out. I hope a few of these pointers can help you deal with hate when it comes at you! 1. Know your haters. The kind of comments a person [...]

2020-03-23T18:50:57-07:00 By |

How I Overcame My Anger to Be Better for My Family

“Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.” ~Eckhart Tolle   As a special-needs parent, it feels that I am in constant anger and fight mode. I am fighting with my children on the home front. I am fighting for their right to get access to services. I am fighting for their acceptance. I am fighting for my children to help them make progress. To be in constant fight mode can be overwhelming and exhausting. In my weakness, I let my emotions get the best of me. I lose my temper with my loved ones.   The One Thing I Regret Saying to My Daughter A particular incident that took place many years ago stands out in my mind to this date. The principal of my daughter’s school told me she was causing lots of problems there. Her behavior was disturbing her classmates, and many parents had complaints about it. “We feel that this school is not suitable for her and it would be best to find her another school,” said the principal. I fought with the school to let her stay. This was the third school we had to fight for her acceptance. I felt that I was coming to another dead end. After that meeting, I headed home and was greeted with an onslaught of screaming and shouting children. Adding to that chaos, my daughter with autism poured out the contents of every toiletry bottle she could find into the bathtub. It is incredible how much children can do given one minute unsupervised. At that very moment, I snapped and yelled. “What is wrong with you? What is wrong with you?” “Why are you always wrecking the house?” “Why can’t I have a moment of peace without you causing any trouble?” “I did not sign up for this!”  “I don’t want you!” My daughter with little communication skills stood frozen. I saw fear in her eyes. She felt every ounce of anger I had in me then.   Why Yelling Further Delays a Child’s Development When children misbehave, yelling at them seems like a natural response. We feel that when we yell at them, we get their attention, we are disciplining them. None of us likes to be yelled at. When we yell at our children, they are more likely to shut down instead of listening. That is not a good way to communicate. For children on the spectrum, yelling can be particularly detrimental, as it may result in them retreating into their own world and not engaging with other people even more. The more we connect and engage with them, the more they can thrive and grow. Hence, yelling can never be a means to “discipline” them regardless of how stressful and frustrated we may feel at that moment.   Not Yelling—Easier Said Than Done Trust me. No one understands this more than I do. When you are stressed and frustrated, releasing all that pent-up emotion seems like the only solution. [...]

2020-03-23T18:40:55-07:00 By |

Quarantine Apathy: 3 Tools for Overcoming Despair During Isolation

As the rain pours and the evening draws to a close, I am swallowed by a prevailing sense of apathy that has grown for weeks in quarantine. At first, this feeling crept into my ambition. It sucked away my longing for a successful career serving humanity. Next, it slipped into my desire for affection. I found myself unmotivated to care for my body. Then it slid into my relationship with my spiritual path. I began to recoil at all outward forms of spirituality. Tonight, it edged into the fledgling pages of my book. Doubts assail me about my ability to write for healing. This apathy is like the Nothing from the Never Ending Story. It blows in as a storm and destroys everything in its path. I am gripped with fear that this Nothing will leave me empty, that I have lost my way and will never find home. In the midst of this anguish, from the power of words, a quiet voice calls out. She says that this too shall pass. She reminds me that this Nothing is merely clearing a path for Something. She says, "pray and be still." The fear releases its grip a little. I remember that rain brings renewal in her wake. Doubt and depression spring from uncertainty and we are a world unraveled. That voice, she is my soul. She whispers, "Be still and know that I am God." I will wait for the change to come. These waves of apathy are to be expected. The remedies we try are many and have varying effectiveness. When overcome by these moments, if we can cling to our inner knowing that this too shall pass, we can avoid some of the pitfalls that cause others to stumble. We can avoid the remedies that break us further. The soothing balms of drugs, alcohol, and emotional avoidance that spiral us further toward depression can be avoided.   Here are 3 tools for being still during these cresting waves of apathy: 1. Rest well and listen When we feel Nothing, it is our mind and body crying for rest. Allow yourself the grace to sink. Sink into the couch, the chair, the bed. Listen to something beautiful as you do this and your mind will lift upward, even as your body sinks down.   2. Reconnect with nature In nature, we feel our place and purpose most clear. Walk in the healing embrace of nature’s beauty. Walk slowly and without a destination. Let your movement be restful and drink in your surroundings.   3. Breathe deeply We are trained to breathe from our chest. As women, even more so, for breathing from our belly causes it to momentarily expand, God forbid! But to breathe deeply is to begin the process of healing. Place your left hand on your belly and your right hand on your side ribcage. Now, slowly and with concentration breathe in through your nose. Fill first your belly (actually your diaphragm, [...]

2020-05-26T17:12:58-07:00 By |

Simple Ways to Deepen Your Connection with the Natural World

“I only went out for a walk and finally concluded to stay out till sundown, for going out, I found, was really going in.” ~John Muir   Somewhere, stashed away in my collection of childhood memories, I recall having this small deck of cards with random, uplifting activities on them. I don’t remember how they journeyed my way, and I don’t remember them staying around for long, but I do remember that just reading through them was uplifting. It’s interesting, the things that our minds choose to file away—and while I’m a little intrigued that these cards earned a spot, I’m not surprised, at all, that memories of entire days spent out in the woods near our home, as a child, are firmly rooted. It felt as though there were magical secrets hanging from every tree branch and tucked away, at every step, along the forest floor. Throughout the years, I don’t know that I’ve ever felt as content as I do when I’m muddying up a pair of hiking boots. Tuning in to the natural world around us and feeling at ease go hand-in-hand. This is a simple truth that most of us are intrinsically aware of and are intuitively pulled toward, yet as more and more of our natural landscape is forced to concede to pavement and buildings, our stretches of mingling with untouched fields and forests become fewer. The natural world offers a quick and reliable way to effectively manage anxiety, depression and stress-related conditions. In a world that seems increasingly focused on technological routine and gadgetry, basking in the gentle and balancing support that radiates from and within our natural world might seem too simple—and, as a result, may not always be taken seriously as an effective stress-managing solution. Even if we don’t step outside our back door to acres of countryside, we can integrate the benefits that time with nature offers through seeking out pockets of less-cultivated ground during our daily routines. A stroll through a park on the way to work or eating lunch outside can quickly instill a worthwhile sense of peace and tranquility. Aside from our own intuitive awareness, there is much research pointing to the restorative effects of nature—for both our minds and our bodies. It has a quick way of moving through busy, ongoing internal chatter and shape-shifting our thoughts and perspectives. Watching animals collect food along the ground or listening to the rain or birds can immediately shift us into a meditative space. These experiences offer us a chance to connect, in a whole-body way, to the ebb and flow of our entire natural world—to simultaneously become aware of our presence and lose ourselves within this same energetic rhythm. The natural world is in a constant state of change. It brings light to our own dynamic life happenings and gifts the opportunity, regardless of our individual struggles or situations, to just be. Calm and connected. Thinking back to that deck of cards from my [...]

2020-03-23T18:25:57-07:00 By |

Tips for Finding the Right Person

It can be said dating is a way to figure out all the things you don’t want in a partner. And if you want to find the right person, that’s exactly what you need to do. However, it’s equally important to know yourself because that’s the only way you will truly know if they’re ‘right’ for you. Read on for some sure-fire tips to finding, and choosing, the right person for you.   Is it lust or love? First and foremost, you need to work out whether you have a genuine connection with the person you’re seeing. If it’s based in a raw, sexual attraction that doesn’t see you guys stretch much further than the bedroom, you may be in lust. Attraction is important in a relationship, but is not what sustains one. Attraction and infatuation fade, but a real connection doesn’t.   Identify your needs Sure, we all have a mental list of traits or attributes we want to find in a partner. Looks, money, lifestyle, and travel are all great things to have, but they aren’t wholly necessary. Living a lavish lifestyle won’t determine whether you’re treated right or are compatible with your partner. So, focus on the important things; what are their values and core beliefs? How do they think and act as a partner? How do they make you feel in the bigger picture? Working out those things are the best indication of whether this is someone you can build a future with.   Don’t give in to fear or convenience You should value your single-ness. We know that sounds weird. We’re telling you how to find the right person right? But go with it. When you’re happy in yourself and your life, when you meet someone, they’ll be a welcome bonus to your already full life. Choosing to be with someone out of fear or convenience because you don’t want to be alone is not the way to find the right person. It just means you’ll be with whoever happens to show you some attention. If you’re truly committed to finding the right person, you won’t settle.   Find someone you can be you around Lastly, the right person for you is the one who you can be yourself around. And we mean truly be yourself around. Your unapologetic, unfiltered self, flaws and all. Being with someone who truly accepts you is one of the most freeing feelings in the world, and will allow you to build a solid, trusting relationship with them. And as much as you should be able to be yourself, your partner should feel equally as accepted. Being your authentic selves will allow you to make genuine connections and support each other in the best way possible. These are just a few tips for finding the right person for you, and there are many other factors that determine your choice of partner. But as long as you trust your intuition, be positive, and be yourself, you [...]

2020-05-06T13:56:08-07:00 By |